Finding Myself at 50

findingmyself1I’m a wife and mom who is finding myself at 50. No, I’m not “finding myself” like they were “finding themselves” in the 1960’s!  I guess it’s more appropriate to say that I’m figuring out who I am at 50 years old, finding my style now that my body is changing along with the fact that in this new decade though I don’t have to feel more “mature,” I do have to dress more maturely.  I’m discovering  that I’m interested in new and different things today versus ten years ago, and I’m wondering what’s in store for the next 50.   It’s an exciting time, but it’s a challenging and sometimes scary time, too.

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Why I Love Being a Stella & Dot Stylist (and you just might, too!)

Stella & Dot image with laptopI have been a Stylist with Stella & Dot for over two years; here’s why I love what I do. Not only do I get to sample beautiful and trendy jewelry and accessories each season, as a Stylist, another fun part of my job is showing off my accessories at trunk shows, as well!  Imagine having a job that involves gathering friends together to socialize and play with accessories!!  Am I in the happiness business, or what?

If you are unfamiliar with Stella & Dot, we are a boutique-style accessory company selling jewelry and accessories, including bags and totes, scarves, tunics, sarongs and the list of fabulous offerings seems to grow with each new season, much to my delight!  This Spring we added beautiful sunglasses to the mix!

Stella & Dot was founded by our Chief Executive Officer, Jessica Herrin, and our Chief Creative Officer Blythe Harris.  Together, they have created a company that empowers women here in the US, Canada, the UK and France to become business owners on our own terms, giving us the flexibility to work when we want to; whether that means part-time, as a side gig or on a full-time basis.  What else do I like about being a stylist?  The list is too long to fit here in this blog post, but here are the main reasons:

    • I typically earn free samples, or I can purchase them for a pretty nominal fee.
    • I enjoyed the camaraderie with the other stylists on my team both locally and throughout the country and the friendships I have made with my customers. 
    • We are also a brand that is as sought out by celebrities and the media as it is by women like you and me.
    • Our fabulous versatile pieces (close to 2/3 of the collection can be worn multiple ways) makes styling oneself as easy as it is fun.

Our products are lead and nickel safe and, believe it or not; half the line is under $50!  Hostesses earn credit for free and half-off on accessories of their choice in appreciation for hosting and guests also can take advantage of “trunk show exclusives” at half the original price when they attend a trunk show/styling session.

Also, we’re very much a social selling company meaning that you can go to my site and purchase items directly, just like you would on any other retailer’s website, without having a styling session. Or you have the option of having a virtual styling session by inviting your friends to a styling event that is done interactively online via Facebook in real time.

I’ve loved being my own boss. Networking events keep me on my toes and continually challenge me to get myself out and meeting new people and new potential customers.  I’ve met some wonderful women through this journey and continue to do so.

We often talk about a tribe of women to support one another.  I have definitely felt that with Stella & Dot.

Had you told me three years ago that I would become a Stylist with a direct sales company, I would have laughed at the notion.  However, Stella & Dot is not your stereotypical direct sales company a la Tupperware, from the 1950’s, though.  Jessica Herrin, has a strong tech background and her vision for Stella & Dot was of social selling via our websites and social media and of course our personal and group styling sessions.

If you are looking for something to enrich your life, to perk up an outfit or two, or to feel more connected to your community, I highly recommend taking this journey.  To learn more about Stella & Dot, you can visit my website here.  If you have questions about our accessories, hosting a trunk show (we also refer to them as styling sessions) or learning more about what I do as a Stylist, feel free to reach out to me at contactus@findingmyselfat50.com.

How to Hide Flabby Arms

 

Flabby arms are the bane of most women’s existence in our 50’s. All of a sudden those lovely short sleeve tops and dresses just don’t look as good as they used to.

Not long after I turned 50 I discovered, quite by surprise, that I too had flabby arms. When did that happen?  Perhaps I was in denial, but it wasn’t until I saw photos of myself from a special occasion where I proudly wore a beautiful midnight blue cap-sleeve designer dress that I found for a steal at Nordstrom (it was a Tadashi Shogi) that I came to this realization, though.  I was so excited to wear that dress.  In the store mirror and in the full-length mirror at home, I felt great in it!  I loved the cute cap sleeve and thought that it was very flattering.  I was horrified when the pictures came back though when I realized how unflattering those cap sleeves were on my now flabby arms. What a rude awakening, at least to me!  Others said I was being way too hard on myself and maybe I was, but I was so surprised by the what I saw.  From that point on, figuring out how to hide my upper arms was my number one priority.

Recently, as I was searching for other options for hiding flabby arms and I was delighted to find some great tips from Style Expert Deborah Boland from Fabulous After 40.   Continue reading →

Sometimes You Fall Before You Fly

Sometimes you fall before you fly.

In my case I had to

Stumble in the dark,

Fall on my face

And get up again…

Only to walk into the wall.

sometimes you have to fall before you fly

I found this quote on facebook the other day and boy did it resonate with me.  While I don’t think anyone can say they haven’t felt this way at some point today, yesterday, last week, last month, etc.,  I truly believe that some of us find ourselves feeling this way more often than others and perhaps with greater intensity.  I know that I am one of those people.

Our lives are filled with battles won and battles lost.  Good times, bad times, positive lessons learned that propel us forward and negative lessons learned that can sometimes still hold us back, even in the best of times, until we find a way to move forward again.

I find myself stumbling in the dark once again now that my daughter is in high school and continues to grow more and more independent.  Just as I have many times before, I’m back to focusing on who I am, where I want to go and who I will be when she is, for the most part, independent of me.  We’re now thinking ahead to her last two years of  high school, PSATs, SATS, college applications, essays, campus tours and ultimately going to the school of her choice.  I’m thinking ahead to the day we drop her off to begin her freshman year, her college graduation, her first job right out of school, and her eventual move out of our home to her own home, as she officially begins her own adult life.  It’s less than a decade away and it’s frightening to begin this journey that all at once feels familiar, scary and new at the same time.

Though it sounds cliché, being my daughter’s mom has been my most satisfying work ever and the most educational for me.  No, it’s not always been the most exciting of jobs with a job description that has included in random order:

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Beverly Feldman Shoes Love

My Beverly Feldman Shoes

On my birthday, last month, my family and I decided to go to one of our favorite areas to celebrate — Old Town Alexandria, Virginia.  After a lovely brunch at a French restaurant called Bastille we went to the Old Town Boutique District, which I’d read about, but had never been to before.  My daughter was pretty excited to check out this fun shopping area too;  my husband, I can safely say, was not, but he was such a love to indulge me on “my day.”

One of the stores I’d read about in the Boutique District and wanted very much to take a peek in was Periwinkle, a sweet boutique that is filled with beautiful designer clothing, shoes and accessories.  As luck would have it,  a little chalk board at the door just happened to advertise that they were having a sale and I personally lucked out when this pair of Beverly Feldman T-Strap Sara Bis Pumps was not only a sale item, but happened to fit!

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What to Wear with Yellow Accessories

I was inspired by my new Citrine yellow Stella & Dot Norah earrings  and black and white polka dot sweater to put together an outfit which I wore the other day.  I loved it so much, I decided to create the collection below on the right, which has very similar elements in it.  I’m loving the 2014 Stella & Dot Collection of jewelry, handbags and accessories.  This is the first season change that I’ve been through since I started my Stella & Dot business.  From what I keep reading and hearing from other Stylists, the accessories and the jewelry get better and better with each season and I can see that, as well.     I also wanted to illustrate that these accessories can be worn now — adding just the right amount of warmth and sunshine to my winter outfit on the right and in the Spring and Summer as illustrated on the left.

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Random Thought for the Day: The Sunroom

tropical-porch
Tropical Porch Courtesy of Houzz [dot] com

 

Wouldn’t it be great if we could redefine what a Sunroom is?  Here’s what I’m thinking I’d like the Sunroom to be.  I’d love to have a year round room in my house that would be all windows — even the ceiling would be made of glass.  No breaking of the glass ceiling  here–this one would withstand the elements!  The daily temperature in my sunroom would be a steady cool temperature, say 68 degrees, with a gentle natural breeze that Continue reading →

Turkey, Stuffing, Green Bean Casserole and a Turkey Menorah???

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Erika’s Turkey Menorah!

 

Turkey, stuffing, gravy, green bean casserole and a Turkey Menorah???While I don’t know for certain what menu items will be appearing on my friend Erika’s table this Thanksgiving, I do know that this Turkey Menorah will be proudly displayed somewhere in her home this year.

Erika is one of the most creative people I know — she made all of the invitations for her Wedding and for both her son’s Bar Mitzvah and for daughter’s Bat Mitzvah, along with decorations in celebration of the occasions, she’s made incredible cakes in all shapes and sizes for countless birthdays, I know there’s more, but I can’t think of them at the moment.  Now she’s done it again, she made this Turkey Menorah just in time for Thanksgivukkah!

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Polkadot Pants, a Sparkly Statement Necklace and Shiny Ballet Flats

Similar Outfit to the One I Wore
 
Burgundy Blouse (similar)
Black Capri Polkadot Pants
(the image above does not do them justice — click on the image to see the print up close)
 Ivory Statement Necklace
Bow Belt (similar)
Silver Ballet Flats (similar)
 

Polka-dot pants, a sparkly statement necklace and shiny ballet flats were the basis of the outfit I wore to the fantastic femworking blogging and small business conference that I attended in October.  I had a blast networking, talking about my goals for findingmyselfat50.com, telling the women about the women’s business networking group, of which I am a Group Leader, my ecommerce site, TheNarrowShoe.com, my first foray into e-commerce and what I thought was blogging at the time, and a labor of love, and the my leap into a new entrepreneurial venture as a Stylist for Stella & Dot.  Suddenly, I’m a very, very busy woman!

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Cobalt Blue & Yellow: Happy to Be Home After A Productive Trip

Happy to Be Home

Here’s what I created after playing around with Polyvore today —

Cobalt Blue and Bright Yellow

Cobalt Blue Dress http://bit.ly/1885ryg

Kenneth Cole Reaction Suitcase http://bit.ly/1hk6Z1N

Cobalt Tech Wallet http://bit.ly/1gsjs25

I see this woman coming back home to her penthouse apartment in New York after her very productive business trip.  She’s a high level executive at her company.  Don’t you just love the cobalt blue walls and how the yellows in the painting pop against it in her Continue reading →

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